Marriage Intensives

Marriage Intensives 

 

We’re glad you’re here!

Your being here means that you believe there is still hope for your marriage. That’s all we ask … that you can still see a flicker of life … and have a willingness to fan that flame back into a meaningful marriage. You owe it to yourself, your spouse and your children to make that effort.

Acknowledging your need for an intervention … or a miracle … is the first step to transforming your relationship. You might believe you’re too far apart … too hurt and damaged … or too far gone to save your marriage. We believe that our time together can help you begin to stop the craziness so you can begin putting your relationship with God and each other back together again.

May we encourage you … before you choose to extinguish the flame of your marriage forever, to make at least one more try?

 

What is a “Fan the Flame Marriage Intensive”?

Our marriage intensives are more than a couple’s weekend retreat. They are intimate, personalized coaching sessions designed to help you identify and address your specific needs. Intensives are more powerful than one hour counseling sessions because they keep you both focused on your issues for an extended period of time. You will receive over 25 hours of personalized counseling, coaching and marriage building exercises that will fan the flame of your marriage back to life.


Where are these intensives held?

We want you to get away from the distractions and daily routines that complicate your life so you can focus on yourselves and your marriage. You will be our guests in You will be our guests at either Sandy Cove Retreat Center in Maryland (www.sandycove.org), Black Rock Retreat in Southern Lancaster County (www.blackrockretreat.com) at Montrose Bible Conference (www.montrosebible.org), in Northern, PA (close to NY) or at Harvey Cedars Bible Conference (www.hcbible.org) in Long Beach Island, NJ   ... enjoying your own private room and bath with all your linens and towels provided... and 3 great meals a day. Your job... is to concentrate on yourselves and your marriage... our mission is to focus on you.

You will receive approximately 25 hours of personalized coaching, counseling and attention in a small group setting over your 3 days in our very accommodating and all inclusive marriage counseling retreat experience.

Most people have apprehensions about marriage counseling in a group format ... yet we've found that couples can't stop talking about how helpful it was for them. Also, independent research shows that men show higher levels of satisfaction in a group format than individual settings.

Program Details

  • You will receive approximately 25 hours of attention from
  • 1 coaching couple per group
  • Intensive Notebooks
  • 2 nights of lodging
  • All your meals included
  • 15 week follow up program
  • Monthly "live" video chat follow-ups
  • Limit of 3 married couples per intensive

Program Schedule 

Friday Night

  • Arrive for first night ... check in time is after 4 pm.
  • Dinner
  • Get acquainted time with your coaches and other two couples
  • Retire for evening

Saturday

  • Breakfast
  • Morning sessions with break
  • Lunch
  • Afternoon sessions with breaks and projects
  • Dinner
  • Evening session with couple's project
  • Retire for evening

Sunday

  • Breakfast
  • Morning session with break
  • Lunch
  • Afternoon sessions with breaks and projects
  • Dinner
  • Closing

Price & Registration

To discuss cost and payment information and to get you registered, your next step is to call 717-299-8969 or email intensives@fantheflamedates.com. Financial "needs based" scholarships are available.

 

We were voted one of the 10 Best Christian Marriage Confereneces, Retreats and Intensives in 2017!*


Upcoming Schedule (We typically lead 2-3 intensives per month)

  • November 17-19, 2017 @ Sandy Cove, MD (Full)
  • November 17-19, 2017 @ Lancaster, PA (1 spot open)
  • December 1-3, 2017 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • December 8-10, 2017 @Harvey Cedars, NJ (3 spots open)**
  • December 8-10, 2017 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • January 12-14, 2018 @ Sandy Cove, MD (3 spots open)
  • January 19-21, 2018 @ Harvey Cedars, NJ (3 spots open)**
  • February 2-4, 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • February 9-11, 2018 @ Sandy Cove, MD (3 spots open
  • February 9-11 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • February 16-18, 2018 @ Harvey Cedars, NJ (3 spots open)**
  • February 16-18, 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • March 2-4, 2018 @ Sandy Cove, MD (3 spots open)
  • March 9-11, 2018 @ Montrose, PA (3 spots open)
  • March 16-18, 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • April 6-8, 2018 @ Sandy Cove (3 spots open)
  • April 6-8, 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • April 13-15, 2018 @ Harvey Cedars, NJ (3 spots open) **
  • April 20-22, 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • May 4-6, 2018 @ Sandy Cove (3 spots open)
  • May 4-6, 2018 @ Lancaster, PA (3 spots open)
  • May 18-20, 2018 @ Black Rock Retreat (3 spots open)

 ** Note:  Intensives at Harvey Cedars will run from 1pm on Friday to 1pm on Sunday

Hear what some of our couples are saying about our marriage events:

"I  can't  thank you and the team enough for the weekend we spent with you. Thank you for opening my eyes to the plank that has been blinding me. I felt like the majority of our problems were all my husband's.  It's a painful process to see and admit that I  bear a lot of responsibility for the shape our marriage is in. My husband is moving back home tonight , We have a lot of work to do together.  I'm  so very thankful for the tools you have provided to us."  M & M

"I am so very thankful for HOTR.  We are doing well, we have started over.  New start, new marriage and we are building our foundation on God's Word, forgiveness, truth, honesty and forever.  My husband has stated that he is going to win my heart back."  A & J

"Thank you both for such an awesome and enlightened weekend.  C and I both absolutely learned so much more about each other and how to start communicating.  We hardly stopped talking all the way home. We really needed this. We can't thank you enough." C & C

"My husband and I really enjoyed this past weekend. It rekindled flames and opened our hearts and minds to a new way of treating each other. Your honest personal accounts of love and struggle proves that we can do this! With Gods help all is possible. Though we have many struggles outside of our immediate influence, we realize that our partnership with God's guidance is insurmountable. Thank you for all you did and we look forward to you being their for us as we continue our journey." I & A

"This is an incredible program. Something every married couple would benefit from whether they are having major problems or not! It has been transforming for me and my husband! We still have a long way to go, but the fear buttons section alone is worth the intensive! (That's a lot of exclamations!!!!) " M & R

"Thank you so much for having this ministry, I know that this was a life changing time for T and I. The weekend was a great start to our new marriage. I felt GOD's presence many times over the weekend when we all were meeting and talking. I will be praying for the all the couples that were there. I look forward to staying connected with everyone andI feel GOD had a reason for getting us all there at the same time." - T & M

"S and I have been doing so much better, though we still have a ways to go, we are on the right track.  One thing that I can say I didn't have before going through the Intensive was hope, I am full of Hope and know that God has definitely worked on me and he continues to do so. I'm definitely hopeful for our marriage, and believe that God can make it what it's supposed to be." - S & T

"I want to thank all of you for the support that you have given to my wife and I.  When I came back from a recent trip she told me that she trusts me, completely trusts me.  That is a miracle - a huge breakthrough for our marriage.  Now that the trust wall has come tumbling down I believe that we can truly begin to reconnect as a couple and heal.  I cannot fully explain the joy I feel to know that she trusts me.  We are loving toward each other and comfortable.  We have conversations - without argument, without accusation, with love and respect.  It feels so wonderful.  I missed my wife so much and it is a miracle to have her back. God puts people in our lives for reasons.  I thank the Lord constantly for bringing my wife and me to the Intensive.  At first it seemed hopeless to me, but just look at the miracles the Lord has provided.  He truly lives and works in all of us.  All of you have helped M and me to reconnect to each other and to God.  I feel truly blessed. Thank you, a million times, Thank you, B."

"For me specifically, just the open love and care was releasing. We have been so focused on getting through this and the work that is needed that the encouragement and coaching was a breath of fresh air. I was thankful for the people we were surrounded with at our intensive because at times, they helped me to find my voice or even spoke more eloquently to what we are going through than I could." - A & B

"It was a pleasure to be with them (Bruce and Karen) during our sessions. They have an authentic and true desire to see our marriage thrive. Their concern for helping us through the areas of our relationship that have been road blocks comes through during the sessions and afterwards during the down times of the intensive. They navigated us through some heated and tough discussions to bring us back to the reality that our marriage relationship and covenant is for a lifetime. Let’s focus on the good that can come of out of it. Enjoyed them and continue to appreciate and support their ministry." - D & A

"All I can say is make your reservation today ... my life was changed and yours can be too!!" - J & D

"Since the intensive, we have been working very hard to "date" each other. There have been almost no arguments, which has been divine. My husband has been calling every night before leaving work, so that I know what time to expect him and I am letting him know how much I appreciate this. Our plan has included writing scripture on index cards and putting them where we can see them. We have been reading the Bible as much as possible, treating each other with extra kindness, offering more grace." - G & L

 

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