The Magic of a “Time-Out” to Ease Arguing Couples!!
Did you know that “Calling a Time Out” …before you get into some marital mayhem can be a great way to start a positive conversation?
Coaches often call a time out when they feel the game is out of control and getting away from them. It gives the team a chance to break the negative momentum or to slow the game down so that they can re-group and talk about a new strategy for winning the contest.
The same is true for you as a couple … the power of calling a “time out” at the right moment … can keep you from letting the negative and destructive arguments defeat your marriage.
So when you feel that things are getting hectic and out of control … call a time out … it can help you positively resolve your conflict by:
Time outs don’t cancel or end the game. They have a definite starting and stopping point. The same needs to be true when one of you calls for one in your marriage. When you call a time out … acknowledge there is a problem that needs to be solved … state that you are not ready, or in a good place to deal with it now, and agree on a time and place to come back and work through the issue.
This is not an avoidance strategy … it is an advancement strategy!