One Marriage Trait All Successful Couples Share

devotional_speak well of your spouse.jpgAfter spending time with both couples who are super successful in their marriages … and those on the opposite spectrum dealing with major challenges, I’ve found a few key traits that all the successful couples share … and the not so successful couples need to learn.

The first is to speak well of your spouse in public.

Now that might sound a little trite … and not very earth shattering, but the reality is many couples choose to vent about their frustrations … poke fun of their spouse … or spew negative comments over and over again about them.

Paul gives this advice to the Ephesians, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Besides being biblical, here’s 3 practical reasons why this is so important.

1 – You Get the Behaviors You Affirm

Social psychologists have reiterated this notion over and over again. When you praise positive behavior, you get more of the same. When I tell my friends how much I enjoy my wife’s good cooking … the message cycles back to her … affirming that trait and making her want to entertain more and more!

2 – Affirmation Keeps You Positive

When we choose to keep our words positive, our emotions and feelings will follow suit. We have the ability to literally talk ourselves into a better mood. If we choose to dwell on the negative, the same thought holds true and we linger in frustration and bitterness.

3 – We Forget to Close the Loop

We’ve all fallen prey to this one. You just left your spouse after an argument that wasn’t resolved … and you spout off to a mutual friend or family member sharing only your side of the battle. Of course in your mind you were right and your spouse was wrong making your spouse look stupid and petty.

After you get home, you resolve the argument realizing you both played into the equation … unfortunately, you never share how it ended to those friends or family members … which causes them to think less of your spouse. 

I challenge you today to start speaking well of your spouse in public ... and see how it transforms both your and your spouse's attitudes and actions!

Here's a Great Way to Have a Blast ... and Help Marriages at the Same Time!!

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