How to Cheat in Your Marriage the Right Way

devotional_hand-cheating.jpgMy wife and I are in the throes of raising our 6 boys. 

As a stay at home mom, she shoulders many responsibilities and works hard to keep our house running smoothly. 

A few months ago, I was challenged to ask her one simple question ... "What’s one way I can help you with regards to our kids and family?"

Her response ... “Would you adjust your work schedule to be home when the kids get off the bus from school?”

My first thought … well that’s ridiculous ... I have to work during that time and I there’s always too much to do. 

Then a stinging rebuke hit me ... I had recently finished reading a book by Andy Stanley where he mentioned everyone wants more of your time and efforts. Your work wants more of you ... your kids want more of you ... your friends want more of you ... your wife wants more of you ... your hobbies want more of you ... and the list goes on and on.

The reality is that you can't please everyone. So … you have to choose who you will cheat.

My selfish desire was to say I need time at work. If I don't get things done ... they’ll be sitting on my desk for me the next day … I don’t want to look bad in front of the rest of the staff … I need to be successful at work!

It’s much easier to tell my wife that she’ll be fine with doing everything at home … and she doesn’t need my help.

Philippians 2:3-4 says to “Value others above yourself not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others.”

Who’s interests should get the priority in my life? Who’s interests should I be putting first? … My Self … My Work … My Ego …

Or should I be valuing my wife and my family first?

Needless to say … I made the commitment to honor my wife and give her the first fruits of my time this year … and I can honestly say it’s made an unbelievable difference.

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